Herbs and Premature Ejaculation (PE)
There are advanced herbal medicines and important world herbs specifically used for this for premature ejaculation.
What is PE?
Premature ejaculation is known to be one a very common sexual relationship issue. The man doesn't like it and he also knows that he's letting down his partner; her enjoyment and fulfillment is cut short. The man should immediately go down on his partner so that she reaches climax.
Premature ejaculation (PE) means coming or ejaculating early or too quickly or before his partner reaches satisfaction. Young men are affected more often; older men can control it more easily. But it is a serious problem in a loving marriage or relationship. A woman doesn't feel happy with a new relationship if her new partner comes too quickly. This is because as soon as a man ejaculates he almost immediately loses interest in sex and in his partner. The classic picture is that he turns over or gets up for a smoke (and she is left fuming). Men, always make sure you completely satisfy your partner's sexual needs before you enter her for your brief action. PE can ruin a marriage if not handled properly. Don't let PE break her heart.
Every man and every couple is different in bed. Actual sexual intercourse is a matter of connecting with each other. It involves heart, mind and body. If this is done time stands still and, long or short, penetration is of no real consequence, you're both entangled in love; it'll be heaven. But the reality is not always like that. Often there is just a physical need and this takes preparation (foreplay) and then the fulfillment. With PE problems, foreplay should be drawn out and developed so that climax when it happens is completely satisfying to her and then you. This final part can then be quick because it means the chemistry has bonded.
The trouble is both partners can become psychologically timid of even starting sex if past experiences have been unfulfilling. Every time chemistry starts the experiment fails. The penis doesn't become a bone and the woman can't give herself as she'd like to. The result is frustration and usually an argument; disengagement. This is a slippery slope with knock-on problems in the relationship. Something must be done. It needs to be approached and discussed like reasonable adults not screaming teenagers. One answer has actually already been stated above, viz a prolonged foreplay (even if at the beginning your penis is not hard) so that she is completely satisfied. Your turn will come. It may take many days or even weeks. But it is your girl that must be considered as primary before you get your wicked way. Then your relationship will be safe and good. She'll respect you and love you for respecting her first. It's an old addage, but no less true for that, that if the woman in the house is happy then the family is happy. The next thing you need to do is to work on yourself to improve your performance so that your sexual relationship can go to a new level. This requires a strong, hard penis and an ability to have sex for 5 to 10 (or more) minutes (an average man can last about 7 minutes of hard pumping). All women with men who have PE would be more than happy for their man to pump for even 3-4 minutes. For a man who has had premature ejaculation for years this will take determined action to prevent coming after 10 seconds or even a minute. Control, withdrawal, reentry, pumping technique and trained mental "distraction" are mandatory for success. And herbs can be another important aid to delay ejaculatory failure. Failure will happen. It is inevitable with men with PE. Your woman must be supportive of your efforts (she will be if she's been totally satisfied with your pre-sex actions and her own orgasm before you even enter her, as described above). Some women want their partners to pump them for 20 or 30 minutes and if they come after 15 they are branded as having PE! This is not the strick definition of premature ejaculation. PE can affect men who just have to enter the vagina and come - they don't even start pumping. Some men can't even get into the vagina before they come. Some come at the entrance gate. Such men will need help on many levels and it starts in their mind not their manhood. More info below. Most women don't get orgasm from the pumping action of the penis in the vagina. But all women can be satisfied with other forms of bringing them to orgasm. Penis entry can just be regarded as an extra enjoyment for her. For the man of course it is the primary enjoyment - hence it should only come into play at the end of/after getting your woman to orgasm. The first stage of beating PE is to time yourself so that you last longer and longer. After this you can control your orgasm/ejaculation to when you want it to happen or after your girl has had her orgasm. If you are a couple trying to get pregnant and your man has a serious PE problem there's only one solution: save him for ovulation day and make sure he gets right inside you to come. He shouldn't have sex or masturbate for 7 days before your ovulation day. See our fertility page on how to find your ovulation day.
What are the causes of PE?
This is not the place to going into this subject at length. But it's worth saying that it could be inherited. It also has links to animal behaviour - apes can come from behind the alpha-male and have a quickie with one of his females, and so sire a baby without the knowledge of the 'king'. Likewise in early cavemen tribes. But the major cause is usually regarded as stress: emotional lack of confidence, past experiences with other partners or the present partner putting pressure on him. So nerves are a major factor. There is also the issue of penile over-sensitivity. I have hinted at this above. Some men are just highly sexed and cannot wait and sometimes this spills over before they have even entered the jade gate. A huge help will be an understanding partner. Partners can agree not to have sexual intercourse, but just to enjoy each other's body and beauty. He will then gain confidence and improve his dominance and control. But he will also gain the power to abandon his strength and become vulnerable with his woman and allow her to enjoy his body. He can then succomb to her enchantments and allure. Their chemistry will become strong and they will each gain in confidence. But he must jump in too quickly. Hold back. Keep her panting..... bring her to orgasm first..... These are methods to overcome PE and you will note that they have very little to do with the penis itself. They are techneques of distraction which build a strong mind and heart and allow your penis to maintain long, strong erections. This is what love-making is all about. She will fall for you. If your erections are weak, flaccid, or not what they used to be get our Herbal V8 Tonic.
Other techniques to offset PE
When you feel you are coming try a simple distraction technique: eg think of a pigeon pecking on the pavement, or putting up wall paper, anything but having sex! Or you can pinch yourself (without her knowing). Or look at the candle flame in the room or the door handle or picture above the bed.
Stop pumping and withdraw halfway. Or withdraw completely for a while then re-enter.
When pumping, do not pump too deep. Only go deep once in 7 pumps. Avoid going deep into her vagina and holding yourself there because it is too magnetic and stimulating. You must control this action. Hold her, kiss her, etc but don't go deep into her. This is a primary cause of failure. Only when you know the time is right to come go deep into her so she can feel the full force of your strength. But don't hurt her.
There are gels that are available to anaesthetise the penis but this is not the thing to use long term because it won't solve the problem. Whatsmore such gels can anaesthetise the vagina of your partner reducing her sexual experience, not to say they can cause itching and pain. Also not to say your own shaft's itchy reaction. To solve it is in your mind and not on the shaft or helmet.
Another recommendation you will be given is by using a thick condom. Use this occasionally for your girl's benefit but it is not a long-term solution. The long-term solution is in your mind and how you treat your girl in bed. In this way you gain confidence and control over your penis.
There is the MJ Grip method which can help if you and your partner work at it to get it right. When you are nearly coming ask your girl to hold and squeeze your penis in the following way: her thumb is on one side of the erect penis, that is, the nearer side to her when she is facing him. Her index and middle fingers are on the other side. The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the 'head'), while the middle finger is just below the ridge. With this grip she squeezes his shaft firmly. It is painless. And you should then be able to resume and go on pumping for some time. Redo this as often as required. It can take time to get it right. It's only done when the man feels that he's near to a climax, he then withdraws, tells his partner and she quickly grips and squeezes. It is claimed to be a cure for any couple. But as I have stated throughout, the real cure of PE is in the mind, see above for details.
Also avoid drugs as the solution. They are usually antidepressants and can lead to addiction or unpleasant side-effects.
Your tackle is important and should not be subjected to other kinds of unorthodox/unproven methods eg using bands, creams, or tablets, etc. They could damage your genitals and affect your sperm count and motility.
Finally, masturbation. This can help some. Or he can almost reach climax and stop, then again, and again (3 times), then on the 4th time he ejaculates. This method is conducted the morning before a night encounter for example so that ejaculation is more difficult and pumping can be longer. Again, I don't recommend this as a cure, because PE cure is in the mind and in relation with your partner, as described above.
Herbs for PE
The herbs selected are European and Asian and known for the benefit they have for premature ejaculation. They also act as both nervines and hormonal stabilizers. The patient may need to take this medicine for up to a month or more to observe the response these herbs give. It is normally taken as a 5ml dose twice daily. This tonic should combine with the recommended methods spoken about in this article. For most the response is gradual and therefore a top-up dose for a longer term may be indicated. But following the response which the herbs provide, the patient then usually gains confidence and greater physical control which also leads to greater support from the herbal tonic. Combining this herbal tonic with the methods I have details in this article will give the man greater confidence and lead to controlling ejaculation and strengthening the bond between partners.
Essential nutrients to help treat this condition: ABC Daily Herbal Powder
Other tonics that may be useful with PE Tonic:
Horney Goat Weed
Herbal VW (sex tonic for women)
Heart and Circulation
HaerHaer for women
HairMore for men
FlushLess (for menopause)
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• Remember that herbal remedies are medicines. As with any other medicine they are likely to have an effect on the body and should be used with care. • Herbal remedies may sometimes interact with other medicines. This makes it particularly important to tell your doctor or pharmacist if you are taking a herbal remedy with other medicines such as prescribed medicines (those provided through your doctor or dentist). • Treat with caution any suggestion that a herbal remedy is '100% safe' or is 'safe because it is natural'. Many plants, trees, fungi and algae can be poisonous to humans. It is worth remembering that many pharmaceuticals have been developed or derived from these sources because of the powerful compounds they contain. Any medicine, including herbal remedies, which have an effect on the body should be used with care. • Treat with caution any herbalist or other person who supplies herbal remedies if they are unwilling or unable to provide written information, in English, listing the ingredients of the herbal remedy they are providing. • If you are due to have a surgical operation you should always remember to tell your doctor about any herbal remedy that you are taking. • Anyone who has previously experienced any liver complaint, or any other serious health complaint is advised not to take any herbal remedy without speaking to their doctor first.
Few conventional medicines have been established as safe to take during pregnancy and it is generally recognised that no medicine should be taken unless the benefit to the mother outweighs any possible risk to the foetus. This rule should also be applied to herbal medicinal products. However, herbal products are often promoted to the public as being “natural” and completely “safe” alternatives to conventional medicines. Some herbal ingredients that specifically should be avoided or used with caution during pregnancy. As with conventional medicines, no herbal products should be taken during pregnancy unless the benefit outweighs the potential risk.
Many herbs are traditionally reputed to be abortifacient and for some this reputation can be attributed to their volatile oil component.(6) A number of volatile oils are irritant to the genito-urinary tract if ingested and may induce uterine contractions. Herbs that contain irritant volatile oils include ground ivy, juniper, parsley, pennyroyal, sage, tansy and yarrow. Some of these oils contain the terpenoid constituent, thujone, which is known to be abortifacient. Pennyroyal oil also contains the hepatotoxic terpenoid constituent, pulegone. A case of liver failure in a woman who ingested pennyroyal oil as an abortifacient has been documented.
A stimulant or spasmolytic action on uterine muscle has been documented for some herbal ingredients including blue cohosh, burdock, fenugreek, golden seal, hawthorn, jamaica dogwood, motherwort, nettle, raspberry, and vervain. Herbal Teas Increased awareness of the harmful effects associated with excessive tea and coffee consumption has prompted many individuals to switch to herbal teas. Whilst some herbal teas may offer pleasant alternatives to tea and coffee, some contain pharmacologically active herbal ingredients, which may have unpredictable effects depending on the quantity of tea consumed and strength of the brew. Some herbal teas contain laxative herbal ingredients such as senna, frangula, and cascara. In general stimulant laxative preparations are not recommended during pregnancy and the use of unstandardised laxative preparations is particularly unsuitable. A case of hepatotoxicity in a newborn baby has been documented in which the mother consumed a herbal tea during pregnancy as an expectorant. Following analysis the herbal tea was reported to contain pyrrolizidine alkaloids which are known to be hepatotoxic.
A drug substance taken by a breast-feeding mother presents a hazard if it is transferred to the breast milk in pharmacologically or toxicologically significant amounts. Limited information is available regarding the safety of conventional medicines taken during breast-feeding. Much less information exists for herbal ingredients, and generally the use of herbal remedies is not recommended during lactation.
Herbal remedies have traditionally been used to treat both adults and children. Herbal remedies may offer a milder alternative to some conventional medicines, although the suitability of a herbal remedy needs to be considered with respect to quality, safety and efficacy. Herbal remedies should be used with caution in children and medical advice should be sought if in doubt. Chamomile is a popular remedy used to treat teething pains in babies. However, chamomile is known to contain allergenic sesquiterpene lactones and should therefore be used with caution. The administration of herbal teas to children needs to be considered carefully and professional advice may be needed.
The need for patients to discontinue herbal medicinal products prior to surgery has recently been proposed. The authors considered eight commonly used herbal medicinal products (echinacea, ephedra, garlic, ginkgo, ginseng, kava, St John’s Wort, valerian). On the evidence available they concluded that the potential existed for direct pharmacological effects, pharmacodynamic interactions and pharmacokinetic interactions. The need for physicians to have a clear understanding of the herbal medicinal products being used by patients and to take a detailed history was highlighted. The American Society of Anaesthesiologists (ASA) has advised patients to tell their doctor if they are taking herbal products before surgery and has reported that a number of anaesthesiologists have reported significant changes in heart rate or blood pressure in some patients who have been taking herbal medicinal products including St John’s Wort, ginkgo and ginseng. MCA is currently investigating a serious adverse reaction associated with the use of ginkgo prior to surgery. In this case, the patient who was undergoing hip replacement experienced uncontrolled bleeding thought to be related to the use of ginkgo.
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